With the beginning of the second year of the child, starting his independent to emerge, and the family have to treat as one of its members through the provision of material needs basic like his bed, toys, clothing, and say:
This Smart game and this is Smart bed and this is a smart shoe , and through that, the child begins to give an idea for the same initial material needs through the concrete belonging to him, and thus also begin his material to emerge.
We are also working on the configuration of the moral side of this character through the discussion in its own opinion and not impose on him, but his education and convince him to do what is required of it and what is happening around him, for example, we say to him:
Do you want to eat?
Would you like to play?
Do you want to go out with us?
That is, we use the formula of inquiry and not a formula is like:
come, sit, go, sleep, and comes to the role of parents here through spending enough time with their children and encourage them to play and pronunciation, and this contributes to the development of mental, social, and increases their independence and self-reliance.
Interaction with the environment and its importance in shaping the personality of the child
The child interacts with his environment and is affected by everything around him, and starts imitating what he sees and hears the skills of a very, Vtvkir Child continuous and constant concern with things, he hears and sees, that develops character and develop his skills and creativity, as it is moving towards social behaviour by imitating those around him, he is imitated their parents, siblings, peers and acquire knowledge.
Such a tradition to play a positive role in building his character if the conditions are met, appropriate to that, an example of this is an imitation of a young child of his elder brother, and speak in a similar way, and act like him, and through encouragement and praise and explanation can be developed and the developing child's personality, small as the positive.
Some mothers for the actions of their daughters:
- It imitates me in everything I do at home until I sat in the mirror and got dressed, they are stuck to kitchen tools and try to operate.
- As for the child, he imitates the hero in children's programs, even after completion, where the game continues to imagine himself the hero and imitate the characters, he loves the cartoons.
- A child needs a permanent monitoring and education to help him to distinguish between fact and fiction, he is admired figures that fly, and much pleased monitored in the victory over evil.
- It is true that promote good values in children, but must provide reasonably commensurate with the mental abilities and knowledge and under the supervision of parents.
Tradition negative factor in terms of its impact on refining the child's personality:
- The tradition negative factor in the later stages of life, for that he loses his personality and independence.
- Children imitate at first, they must phase them, but the required education and encourage children to have their distinctive personalities and independent, because the replicas are troubled personal and non-independent and free from development.
The nature of the child's development tend to tradition, the first thing we notice is clearly a tradition in the sounds and movements, has become a performance similar to his parents, speech and even tone of voice, I said to him:
No, with the movement of the finger to indicate rejection, the child later will make the same movement to denote the rejection.
At first, imitate the child of all, that is, it goes to the tradition of adult parents or teachers that models play or heroes on the screen, and with age becomes a tradition is positive, as the child picks a few things, but not all, is the tradition of a positive when it provides interest and new information for the child, But otherwise, it is a negative tradition, as in the case of a child who imitates his younger brother, a situation called:
regression (a return of the child in his behaviour to the younger years of age).
It is very important interest in thinking skills by asking the right fit with the mental problems of the child and asked him the solution, and dialogue with him and ask him to constantly come up with sound solutions himself.
And get used to the freedom and logical thinking, and should practise these skills in everyday life with the child as well as in curriculum and teaching methods, as the interest in thinking skills contributes to the investment potential of the mind and brought him to the high levels of help in the emergence of an intelligent child. And thinking skills:
planning, goal setting, information gathering, organizing information, description, summary, application, analysis, construction, comparison, identification of errors, Calendar, reconstruction, extrapolation.
The types of thinking include the following:
does not depend only on the mental intelligence, but need a different kind of intelligence is emotional intelligence.
The emotional intelligence is a set of personal qualities and social skills that enable a person to understand the feelings and emotions of others, and then be better able to rationalize his psychological and social basis of these skills.
A person who is a high degree of emotional intelligence have a lot of abilities, skills, and often has the following characteristics:
- Easy for him to make new friends.
- Be able to control the emotions.
- Can express his feelings and his feelings easily.
- Tends to the opinion of Independence, governance and understanding.
- Improves the face of difficult situations with confidence.
- Feels comfortable in intimate situations that require the exchange of feelings and affection.
The emotional intelligence can be gained and learned, through a lot of methods, including the maintenance of good feelings and positive when dealing with others, and we train ourselves well to face the crisis calmly, and address to resolve differences.
And can benefit from the emotional intelligence and its development in the payment of family relations more stability, and that the use of the principles of emotional intelligence help parents to establish strong relationships with their children, and contributes to the development of emotional intelligence in children.
And then the emotional intelligence plays an important role in the compatibility of the child with his parents and his brothers and his peers and his environment, to grow together and in harmony with life, as well as Emotional intelligence helps to overcome the crisis of adolescence, students who enjoyed the more emotional intelligence, their ability to cope with mental stress and decreased aggressive behaviour they have.
Steps to help refine the child's personality
1 - the need to organize the daily life of the child by determining the time watching television and another time to play with determining the time to sleep at least 8 hours a day.
2 - Training the child to rely on himself to wear his clothes, eat and use the bathroom.
3 - to communicate with the child by talking with and listening to him play and participation.
4 - Teaching children how to share the other children play and how it differs with them sometimes.
5 - to encourage social skills such as helping others and cooperate with them and caring for them.
6 - Taouidh on the use of words such as kind and please and thank that help facilitate the success of its relationships with other children.
7 - set controls and limits of reasonable behaviour so away from the use of the defect .. Sacred and forbidden.
8 - take your child to different places in the surrounding environment such as parks, shops and library.
9 - broadcast the values of work, determination and initiative.
10 - Reading for children every day.
11 - given example, a child loves tradition, parents are the first and most important teachers for their children.
12 - to provide publications such as magazines, books and stories to inform them, As well as tools and colors for drawing, painting, writing, and scrawling .
